Honest Talk About Our ADULT Responsibilities.
Written By: Scott Compton
Here is some hard talk that most parents will avoid like the plague. We are either in control or out of control. Many parents have been seeded with the idea, “My husband or wife is ‘being controlling’ when parenting,” as if the word “controlling” is a so horrible, bad thing to be, and some other choice is a more acceptable alternative. The connotation of the word Control gets people to change their behaviors and avoid “being controlling.” It’s usually an illusion because it’s usually a lack of communication between a couple.
Children love boundaries and obstacles and will be testing them 24/7. Parents need to expect they will be tested and then respond accordingly. Sadly, when one parent attempts to establish boundaries, often the other parent may think, “I’d do it way differently” and this could result in name-calling, “Your way is ‘very controlling’ over our child” because the parents are not on the same page. The word “controlling” is the term humans use to paint, what might be very healthy boundaries in a bad way.
See through the BS illusion before it’s too late, and start communicating in your relationships. Be adults and not children. Establish the proper boundaries, then follow through, dang it! Sometimes it is hard to follow through, but support your significant other’s good intentions and find a path to parent more effectively.
Consider scheduling with me if you need more balance in your parenting relationship and/or help setting healthy boundaries with your children.
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