The following is a selection from a good friend.
“Relationships grow or decay. Some may also stall at times. Nurturing ourselves nurtures our relationships. By understanding and looking inward at ourselves first can reveal patterns we have developed that can keep us caged. Checking our own egos, being able to let go with another person and communicate our inner emotions can be a deep risk for people. Our deeper relationships often puts the spotlight on our own identities as we put more trust into others.
If we place our problems and blame things outside of us, we can come to expect more suffering. Instead, each of us has the solution to the problems we seek inside, and typically the solutions are not in the mind itself, but the mind’s communication to and from the heart(spirit)…
As we look to develop confidence within ourselves and control over our lives, we are left with the dilemma that the world is continually changing: change-itself as the only fixed-known. We don’t know what will happen a few seconds, hours or days from now, even if we attempt to predict behaviors based on past data points. The data we collect and analyze within ourselves can create illusions because personal growth and experiences change people…
The creation of negativity has more to do with Control-itself: the fear of having a lack of control of the world around us: possibly the greatest illusion of all. It is part of the human condition and its how we are crafted to have deep relationships with others, which requires letting go enough to open up to let others be, let others shine of their own souls, to uplift the best in others. At the heart of all, our hearts wish to fuel our thinking minds, not to have let our minds run amok to suppress our hearts. In an interesting twist, we all need inner freedom and independence to retain Control over our choices. Once we see ourselves inwardly and deeper with new perspectives to dealt with our traumas, fears and anxieties, it gives us power to open up our hearts even more, let down our walls and take risks on deeper relations to experience the love and growth of life.”
– Scott Compton
